Sometimes we don’t take the time to look outside of ourselves. Half the time we’re only focused on what’s right in front of us, and the other half of time we’re focused on things that don’t matter like what we’re wearing, and what we look like. We’re too busy focusing on impressing others, all while those same people we’re trying to impress are trying to impress someone else.
I’m entering my senior year of college with big decisions to make in a couple of months. I was told that college was a way to network and a time to make decisions that can have an impact on my future. So I’m guessing high school was a time to make stupid decisions and a great time to learn from your mistakes. With that being said there’s so much pressure on me to be make the right choices, “your next job could be your career for the rest of your life.” At my age now I thought I was suppose to have it all figured out – my career and everything else; but I don’t. At 21-25 you’re suppose to be building the stepping grounds for the rest of your life, is this really true? Do I really have to make these big decisions at such a young age or am I just old and denying the fact that I’m getting older? Who’s to decide when my life starts anyway, isn’t it my life? I then realized that expecting all these things would mean that I would be living a life that someone else planned. Lets face it all these things will happen on my time because it is in fact MY LIFE. I emphasize the my life because that’s exactly what it is, MY choices, MY mistakes, etc. (I think you get the point) Here I stand at a young but wise age and I have realized that my life has already started a very long time ago. I have realized that the things I want in life will not be given to me but earned. So as far as having my life together, I do. I have an idea of what I want to do and where I want to go. I know that some things will just fall into place while others have to be worked hard to achieve. Now will unexpected surprises happen that leave me unsure – yes! In all I know that my life will be everything I want it to be because in the end I make the decisions for me and no one else is in control of my life but me. I know that there will be a series of unfortunate events, but I believe that I am stronger than obstacle that is thrown in front of me. So you may all be wondering why you’re reading this and why you should care about my life and who I am as a person. I wrote this because there’s a lot of people out there trying to live the life that someone else expects. There are people out there that believe that they have to be doing something by a certain age, when in reality they are in control and decide when these things happen. In life there are times when we are uncertain and confused. We’re so use to having the answers right at our fingertips that when we don’t have the answers right away we start doubting ourselves. We start thinking that we’re doing something wrong or not going about it in the right way. Sometimes that’s not the case at all, in fact sometimes we’re on the right path just looking in the wrong direction. Moral of the story here is don’t be afraid if you don’t have it all figured out yet, I know people twice my age that have no idea what they want to do. You have to learn from your mistakes in order to succeed in life. Let things happen, don’t be afraid to take chances, and realize that you will fail at things your good but don’t let it stop you from trying it again.
Have you ever stopped to think that the media sometimes can misinform people or that sometimes people are not literate enough to separate what’s real and what’s not? We get so used to seeing things a certain way so when we don’t see them that exact way we get a little upset. For example, television series representing people/couples. We except people to look this way and act as these families do on television. When I started to think about the television series that are out now about same sex couples I automatically thought about the Fosters. A beautiful series on ABC family that goes into the life of a lesbian couple with adopted children. In fact one of the mothers was married before and had a child of her own with her husband. I first started watching the show because I heard so many good reviews on it. I actually loved the show and how it portrayed a same sex couple. To the contrary I think some people except ALL same sex couples to look this way, which they will not. I then thought about Orange is the New Black the hit series on Netflix that goes into the life of a lesbian prisoner and her struggles with being incarcerated with her ex-girlfriend while being engaged to her future husband. Bizarre plot twist but it happens. By “it happens” I mean, people are bi-sexual and they like both genders. It’s perfectly okay, but once again not every bi-sexual person is how Piper is portrayed in the Netflix series. I didn’t even stop to think about the series that dates back. Before being openly homosexual was popular and that’s the television series Will and Grace. If you know what show I’m talking about then you know about the characters I’m about to name, Jack, Will, Grace, and the ever so funny Karen. If you don’t know the show I’m talking it’s the 20th century go look it up. (kidding) Again not every gay male is as flamboyant as Jack and not every gay male is like Will. Sometimes it’s hard for people who don’t understand the media and how entertainment works, to dissect what’s real and what’s not. The media is just trying to show a representation of a large body of people. They do the same thing with white families, black families, Asian.. etc. Lets face it, growing up we all thought Caucasian families were made up of a husband, a wife, and two children preferably a son and a daughter. A lot of people grew up excepting all families to look the ones that resembled that type of family on television. It’s sad but true. Same thing goes for same sex couples. A lot of people expect for these couples to look like the couples on television or the ones that are in movies They grow accepting of a certain type of couple, so when they see anything different they are not accepting because it’s out of the norm. The media is there to give us a resemblance, something that we can relate back to – but not compare. We have to realize that people come in all different shapes, colors, races, etc. So not every person is going to look identical to the ones we see on television. We have to accept everyone as they are, and not except to see what we see on television all the time.. because it’s simply not realistic. I found this an interesting read and invite anyone reading this blog to check it out, we get influenced by our peers with social media, check it out http://www.socialmediaexaminer.com/6-powerful-social-media-persuasion-techniques/