One of the biggest ethical issues our generation has to deal with is the legalization of same sex marriage. Our generation of young adults are very accepting of this idea and do not find anything wrong with it. Now, this isn’t your typical “same sex” blog post, in fact it really isn’t too much about the legalization of same sex marriage but more so of accepting of same sex couples.
So let’s talk about it. We all know people who have same sex partners and they are very happy, so why can’t we be happy for them? If we scratch away at the surface we’ll realize that under the flesh we all look the same. We all want the same thing in life, and that’s happiness and love. I don’t know one person who doesn’t want to be loved. The love I speak of doesn’t have to come from another human, some people really love their pets, their job, or even their car. So why is it a problem for two people of the same sex to love one another?
Not trying is ignorant not understanding is a lack of knowledge. Sometimes we fear what we don’t understand and we expect answers to every question. Same sex couples aren’t poison to our society. There are kids, young adults, and elders out there right now afraid to admit they like someone of the same sex. They fear the judgment they will receive from their peers, and their family. These same people are the ones that go around sneaking to do things because they are too afraid to embrace who they are. Simply because some people will not accept them.
At the end of the day we just want to be accepted. They are afraid of the names they will hear, or the whispers they will hear when they walk pass. No one should live in fear or have to pretend to be someone they are not. At the end of the day if someone else’s actions don’t harm you, I don’t think we should get involved. If you see two people of the same sex happy with one another, be happy for them. It takes a brave person to embrace who they are especially when those actions aren’t accepted by all. Love is love. Happiness is happiness. Call it what it is, and not who is doing it.
The idea that some lives matter less is the root of all that is wrong with the world!
If you can’t look yourself in the mirror each day and say “I’m happy” then there are things to be fixed and worked on. First stop looking for perfect it doesn’t exist. Who cares what society and everyone else thinks about yo. If you’re happy continue to do what makes you happy. If buying a Happy Meal makes you happy then by all means continue to buy Happy Meals for the rest of your life or until McDonald’s goes out of business..whichever comes first.
Please realize that everyone has their own definition of happiness and what makes them happy. For instance my definition of “happy” doesn’t mean perfect, I mean I find happiness in my decisions, life goals, simple things, seeing others happy and most importantly self happiness. My definition would be the happiness I control because it’s my life. You are the author of your own autobiography don’t let anyone dictate it for you! You can’t worry about things that are out of your reach. You can’t worry about people’s opinions. Most importantly you can’t worry about society’s expectation of you. Society entails many different opinions, judgments, etc. You can’t please everyone.
Everyone deserves happiness and to me happiness comes from finding yourself..finding yourself in your mistakes, in your flaws, in everything that makes you YOU. You can’t find yourself in society. You especially can’t find happiness in what society expects of you. Live life for you and no one else. If you try to live for society or for what others want you to be you will never find happiness within yourself. You’ll find yourself constantly trying to keep up to what others want you to be. You’ll lose yourself trying to please others instead of doing things that are appealing to you.
Remember the happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts. If you limit your abilities to what others/society says you can and can not do, how happy will you be? Stop waiting for things to happen and go out and make them happen. Don’t live in the foot steps of others and don’t be afraid to go outside of the boundaries society sets. When you make the most of the things that you enjoy, you’ll find yourself in the midst of happiness.
Happiness isn’t just a smile it’s being at peace with things that go wrong and understanding that life goes on. You should be in love with your life! Being in love means you’re happy.
Start writing your autobiography of happiness and love. Start writing about how you bended the rules of society and how you did what made you happy. Don’t keep out your mistakes, instead embrace them. Start writing now and don’t let anyone write it for you!
As a child we were always asked the question, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” The truth of the matter is that some people never get to be exactly what they dreamed. In fact many people never get to have their dream car, their dream house, or anything that they once planned to have in life. Why is that? Why can’t we have things the way we want or have the life that we planned? To ask that question may be selfish but realistically who isn’t? I mean when you’re raised to have big dreams and high expectations why can’t you get what you want if you work so hard? We strive and sacrifice so much for these dreams to come true only to be disappointed when it doesn’t happen. Wouldn’t it be easier to tell us to dream big but realize that things wont always go as planned? You can do all the planning you want but know that life’s uncertainties will happen.
Face it no one nor anything in this world is perfect, so things won’t always go as planned. Although we fear the unknown, sometimes it best to let go of the things we so strongly protect – beliefs in our heads, ideas about the way things should be, people in our lives. We hold on to certain plans, people and situations because we fear not being able to cope without them. Explore the opportunities life has to offer. When your knuckles are white from holding on too tightly to the things you planned, maybe its time to loosen your grip. Let go of the plans you once had and realize that better things may be awaiting you. Things happen for a reason let life run its course. Don’t question every bad situation. Sometimes the best things in life happen when you least expect them or when you don’t plan for them. When you let go of what you once planned you give room to the potential of something better. Realize that life is about chances and taking risk. Let go of your plans to discover the life that is waiting for you. When you let go of what you are, what else might you be?
Photograph by: Irene Matos
Quote: Joseph Campbell
We’re living off borrowed time, stop putting things off and do them now. I think we get hung up on the fact that there’s a tomorrow, when in reality there might not be one. You’ll make mistakes, you’ll be heartbroken, you’ll forget to do important things, but it’s apart of living and growing. Embrace the things that make you imperfect, because it makes you, you. Stop worrying about the opinions of others, people will have something to say whether you’re doing bad or good. We have to appreciate what we have while it’s in front of us, before it’s too late. Appreciate all the small things that make our lives amazing, it’ll be no time before it’s all gone. Appreciate the things that you don’t even notice keep you functioning and mobile, like you’re knees; you’ll miss them when they’re gone. In this modern society we get hung up on the material things that make us “happy” but what happens when that fades away? What are you left with? Take away the cars, the phones, the designer brands and who are you really? We buy these things to earn recognition from others, whether it’s bad or good. Without noticing we label ourselves, but get upset when other people judge or label us. We’re asking for attention but don’t want it once it’s in front of us. See, I think life’s about doing right for yourself and for others. I think life’s about the appreciation of the simple things like nature, and the love someone has for you. I think life’s about happiness and living in the moment. We’re forced to think long term but in reality we may not see that chance to live out those dreams. Life’s about NOW. We can’t change the past but we can fix what was done wrong by making things right NOW. We don’t know what the future holds, but we can take steps into building a bright one by doing the small things NOW. At the end of the day when you lay your head down to go to sleep, ask yourself “if today were my last day, would I be satisfied with how I’ve lived it”
You never know when things will be taken away from you. It’s only a matter of time before that timer is up and you have nothing left. Clocks are every where, reminding us that we’re living off borrowed time. When your clock strikes your time, will you be happy?